Change is scary! 

It is so much easier to remain in our comfort zones. The ‘human’ part of us loves that and wants us to be safe and comfortable, rather than take risks. However, our Soul, and the Spirit that ignites it, seeks change, so that we can be in alignment with who we really are.

It is easier to remain in the job we are currently doing, even though we are not happy there, than to try and go for a new one. Particularly if what we really want to do is something others might not approve of, or if it will create huge upheaval in our life.

In fact, we manifest procrastination, resistance, avoidance, busyness and all sorts of distraction techniques to avoid making that scary decision.

However if we keep avoiding it, our Soul will scream louder!

It takes courage and commitment to make a change, but once the hurdle of fear has been jumped, your Soul will be happier and your Spirit will shine.

Life can sometimes seem like an uphill struggle.

Right when everything seems to be going your way, the Universe throws you a curve ball. It could be in the form of an accident, illness, someone letting you down, falling out with a friend, the end of a relationship, losing a job or any other scenario that knocks you down and changes your focus.

It is often at this point that well meaning people in your life give the advice to look to the positive, be grateful for what you do have, “keep your chin up” and other words that are meant to comfort, but actually rub salt in to the wound.

I am a big advocate of following your intuition. That inner prompt to take action. This often goes against what your head is telling you, but if you follow that guidance it will help you, and others, in all ways.

The other day I was getting ready to go for a day out at a National Trust property. I was meeting my parents and daughter there as my daughter had been staying with my parents for a few days during the school holidays.

The news spread in the media is mainly all about doom and gloom, lack and pain, conflict and strife. Why do we choose to focus on this, when what we focus on we attract? Why choose to watch the 10 O’Clock news and go to bed with those negative and limiting messages?!


It is not that I am suggesting that we bury our heads in the sand. No way. But it is our response to the news that makes a difference.

I am a people pleaser! I only realised it a year or so ago and the realisation was a huge one. I'd spent my life trying to make everyone else happy!

I realised that this comes from a variety of places – from wanting to please my family, from conforming to society expectations, to hating confrontations, to not wanting anyone to be angry at me and to wanting to be loved and liked. Even in my relationships I compromised to excess.

It also comes from my energy centre, which is all about balance and harmony – of being the mediator and harmoniser.

However, it also comes from my Soul group and its collective karma, and then my own personal past life karma. I have a fear of putting myself out there and being “different” from everyone else.

Why?

Well you may be surprised to learn that these are actually the same thing in different stages.

An Earthbound Spirit is a Soul who has not transitioned to the Spirit World properly and has become stuck on the Earth Plane.

This can happen for a number of reasons, such as sudden and traumatic death, being very attached to their physical existence or to someone still incarnated (i.e. a loved one), or it may have been a young child passing or a soul who hasn't incarnated many times before and they do not know the Soul transition process well. For whatever reason they become stuck in the Earth Plane and are confused and disorientated as they do not realise they are dead!

Because an Earthbound Spirit can no longer connect to Source, they need to attach to an incarnated Soul to create their vital force energy and this will usually be with someone they know, such as a family member/loved one. At Soul level the family member agrees to the attachment. This attachment can become draining for the family member.

Yes there is will power and discipline to getting up in the morning when the alarm clock goes off, and not just hitting snooze. Hands up, I still sometimes still do this! But the real change for me has been what happens next...

For a long time our mornings were basically bedlam, with me rushing around trying to get myself ready, whilst shouting down the stairs to my daughter to get herself ready. Grabbing bags, packed lunches, coats, hair brush and hair bands (so I could do my daughter's hair when we got to the school gate), and hastily legging it out of the door hoping I hadn't forgotten something!

My husband (who was on packed lunch making duty) would come to the door for a kiss goodbye, which most of the time I would feel too busy and stressed to give, saying a hasty “I haven't got time for that!” as I ran out of the door.

Until one day the penny dropped - this was no way to start a morning, something had to change!

When you are on a spiritual path, in whatever form that may be for you, you are seeking answers, direction and knowledge about yourself, your place in the world, the universe, the spirit world and how it all works. 

You have probably been drawn along a path of exploring different complimentary and alternative therapies, maybe meditation and yoga too, healing or energy practices, courses, books, talks and other events where metaphysical knowledge is gleaned.

This may have occurred synchronistically, being intuitively led on a path to self healing and discovery.

There will come a point on this path, where your search leads you to ask yourself “What am I here to do?”, and you will look to find your Soul purpose.