As we start the New Year and the new energies that 2018 brings, for many it is a time to reflect on how the past year has panned out, and what positive changes we want to make for the coming year.

Resolutions are made and intentions are set. However, how many of these are actually carried out? How many good intentions fall by the wayside?​

Here are some tips for setting resolutions you can follow through with:

I deliberated on the title of this blog article, as it could just as easily say 'Signs from Spirit', or 'Signs from your Spirit Guides', or 'Signs from the Angels', or even 'Signs from God or Heaven'.

The fact is that the Universe is always talking to us and this can come from a mixture of sources – whether Guides, Angels, departed loved ones, Spirit Helpers,etc

The key is to be open and conscious of the signs and to decipher the message.

So, for example, today I got a message for myself, when I saw the words 'Alcohol Free' in large letters on a mouthwash bottle that had been left out in our bathroom. That for me was a sign from Spirit to say that I need to avoid alcohol as it interferes with not only my energy vibration and my ability to tune into Spirit, but also my body's ability to heal itself.

A sign can come in many ways – through something someone says to you, a gift someone gives you, an overheard conversation, song lyrics, words on street signs, a message or picture in a book or magazine, by email or social media (I often get messages in the titles of spam emails!). It may be something a little out of the ordinary, or something you suddenly become aware of.

Change is scary! 

It is so much easier to remain in our comfort zones. The ‘human’ part of us loves that and wants us to be safe and comfortable, rather than take risks. However, our Soul, and the Spirit that ignites it, seeks change, so that we can be in alignment with who we really are.

It is easier to remain in the job we are currently doing, even though we are not happy there, than to try and go for a new one. Particularly if what we really want to do is something others might not approve of, or if it will create huge upheaval in our life.

In fact, we manifest procrastination, resistance, avoidance, busyness and all sorts of distraction techniques to avoid making that scary decision.

However if we keep avoiding it, our Soul will scream louder!

It takes courage and commitment to make a change, but once the hurdle of fear has been jumped, your Soul will be happier and your Spirit will shine.

Life can sometimes seem like an uphill struggle.

Right when everything seems to be going your way, the Universe throws you a curve ball. It could be in the form of an accident, illness, someone letting you down, falling out with a friend, the end of a relationship, losing a job or any other scenario that knocks you down and changes your focus.

It is often at this point that well meaning people in your life give the advice to look to the positive, be grateful for what you do have, “keep your chin up” and other words that are meant to comfort, but actually rub salt in to the wound.

I am a big advocate of following your intuition. That inner prompt to take action. This often goes against what your head is telling you, but if you follow that guidance it will help you, and others, in all ways.

The other day I was getting ready to go for a day out at a National Trust property. I was meeting my parents and daughter there as my daughter had been staying with my parents for a few days during the school holidays.

The news spread in the media is mainly all about doom and gloom, lack and pain, conflict and strife. Why do we choose to focus on this, when what we focus on we attract? Why choose to watch the 10 O’Clock news and go to bed with those negative and limiting messages?!


It is not that I am suggesting that we bury our heads in the sand. No way. But it is our response to the news that makes a difference.

I am a people pleaser! I only realised it a year or so ago and the realisation was a huge one. I'd spent my life trying to make everyone else happy!

I realised that this comes from a variety of places – from wanting to please my family, from conforming to society expectations, to hating confrontations, to not wanting anyone to be angry at me and to wanting to be loved and liked. Even in my relationships I compromised to excess.

It also comes from my energy centre, which is all about balance and harmony – of being the mediator and harmoniser.

However, it also comes from my Soul group and its collective karma, and then my own personal past life karma. I have a fear of putting myself out there and being “different” from everyone else.

Why?

Well you may be surprised to learn that these are actually the same thing in different stages.

An Earthbound Spirit is a Soul who has not transitioned to the Spirit World properly and has become stuck on the Earth Plane.

This can happen for a number of reasons, such as sudden and traumatic death, being very attached to their physical existence or to someone still incarnated (i.e. a loved one), or it may have been a young child passing or a soul who hasn't incarnated many times before and they do not know the Soul transition process well. For whatever reason they become stuck in the Earth Plane and are confused and disorientated as they do not realise they are dead!

Because an Earthbound Spirit can no longer connect to Source, they need to attach to an incarnated Soul to create their vital force energy and this will usually be with someone they know, such as a family member/loved one. At Soul level the family member agrees to the attachment. This attachment can become draining for the family member.